So what do you think of when you hear the word intimacy?
Most likely your mind moves to a sexual connotation - no doubt aided by the pictures I put in the last posting.
this particular meaning has a strong presence in our understanding of the word
while the Oxford English Dictionary defines intimacy as both;
“Illicit sexual intercourse” and “Intimate connexion or union” , it is the second that I would guess most of us are associated with. It is also the second definition which can cause a discomfort, when they’d prefer to use a more clinical or graphic term. The two definitions almost have a conflicting agenda which should be noted for further discussion.
Other definitions for intimacy that we are familiar with are:
1) quality or condition of being intimate; close familiarity
2) closeness of observation, knowledge or the like
In this course we are talking about digital and industrial design, and while there are certainly cases to be made for the first two definitions to be used regarding our relationships to digital and industrial design, the non-fetish approaches would favour these last two. We can discuss having an intimate relationship with our ipod because of our familiarity with its size, texture and functions. I can describe the hours spent in a specific space giving me an intimate understanding of the volume, materials, and acoustic properties.
One of the problems in this definition is the use of the word “intimate” to describe intimacy, so let’s explore that word further in it’s various forms.
Intimate n.1) a close friend
2) a person with whom one is intimate; a very close friend or associate.
While this particular usage has fallen out of favour, I would not say that it would be surprising to hear that it could be used in this form.
further definitions:
intimate adj.
1) Inmost, most inward, deep-seated; hence, Essential, intrinsic
2) Pertaining to the inmost thoughts or feelings
3) Close in acquaintance or association; characterised by familiarity, very familiar.
4) Pertaining to or dealing with such close personal relations
5) Of knowledge of acquaintance
6) Of a relation between things
Most of these definitions are pretty predictable and straightforward, however one particularly intrigues me.
Essential or Intrinsic.
When we speak of intimate details, we typically use the word to mean private, but the idea of
essential or
intrinsic is a very intriguing idea, especially when it comes to the field of design. The design process is about editing the thoughts and components of a solution down to its simplest form - nothing more than necessary. In that process we are searching for the pure essence of the design idea - compelling that the distillation down to the essence could be the instigator of intimacy. Or perhaps it is the process of intimacy that results in the essence of the design?
Intimate v.
1) To put or bring into, drive or press into, to make known, announce, notify.
2) To make known formally, to notify, state; formerly to proclaim, to declare (war)
3) To mention indirectly
4) To make intimate, familiarize.
All of these definitions, except for the last, have some intriguing ramifications. The first is that there is a conflict in the definition of the first and third. In one use, it is a forceful announcement, and in the third it is an indirect mentioning. How do either of these relate to our initial notion of intimacy as outlined above? In our original definition of there is a sense of emotional closeness, perhaps realised through an indescribable or possibly tender notion, consistent with the third defintion. How many couples announce their sense of intimacy (to be distinguished from expression of love)
The second definition is the most peculiar of all however. A formal notification of war? Etymologically how did this come to be associated with emotions that we associate with closeness? This draws me back to the first contradiction in the first definition and that is the difference between a close emotional connection and illicit sexual intercourse.
There are several interesting connections that could possibly be further researched regarding this peculiarity of the meaning of intimacy.
1) Hate is not the opposite of Love - indiffierence is the opposite of love - Hate and Love both require intense emotions
2) In relationships that physical intimacy is lacking, fighting will become prevalent, as the interaction becomes a form of intimacy.
In the sense of design there are items that we interact with daily that we hardly notice. They are benign, meaningless things. Then there are things that we hate. Everyday we interact with them, and every day we curse their poor design. We are intimate with these objects, but our intimacy is not based on feelings of good will, in fact our intimacy is based entirely out of our desire for their destruction.
How do you define intimacy?How do you see it applying to design?
Are there any products/websites/experiences that exemplify intimacy?